In one sentence, 2016 was rough!
It so weird how most of the bloggers and Youtubers I follow, shared how 2016 was a rough year for them, because for me, my family and most of my friends it’s the same story. The highs were crazy high, and the lows were painfully low. The year seemed not to understand any middle ground, and it’s like I woke up and it was December 31st, the year was gone.
It’s easy to say it was a bad year and pity myself, but when I really take note of what happened each month, it was probably the best year of my life. I had two options last year, grow up or grow the heck up. And it’s funny, every time I thought it can’t get worse, 2016 was like, ‘hold my purse this girl thinks I’m playing with her.’
It was one big emotional, mental and physical rollercoaster that taught me some of the most valuable lessons;
#1. Responsibility comes with sacrifice
It’s about sacrificing what you want for what is more important. Being held accountable for your actions good and bad. Owning up to your weaknesses instead of making excuses for them. Taking care of those you love even when you don’t feel like it. It’s definitely not easy, but the rewards are wonderful.
#2. Taking care of you is not selfish, it is necessary.
Sure you can convince yourself it is noble that you want those around you to be comfortable, but if you forget the most important person in the equation, you are bound for self-distraction. My dad told me one day; you cannot put your life on hold for everyone, at some point, you have to stop and work on you. And that statement right there changed everything.
#3. Don’t be too quick to let people into your inner circle.
When we make new friends and click right away, it’s so easy to overlook their flaws. At the end of the day listen more to your instincts than your ears and eyes; because your spirit is always alert even (and especially) when all your other senses are dull.
#4. Being comfortable in your own skin is amazing.
I have shared before on my body issues but this goes beyond that. Last year, I don’t even really know how, but I looked in the mirror and learnt to accept and even fall in love with what and who I was. It was like the first time meeting myself in a crowded room and just being fascinated by my individuality, how unique I am, accepting my weaknesses and appreciating my strengths. Learning to be unapologetically me is the most beautiful thing I’ve ever experienced, and I would love nothing else but the same for you.
#5. Every day is a blessing.
Last year, so many young people I knew died. People who were once here but now they are gone. Many times I forget how fragile we are as humans, learning to appreciate each day and living in the present was and is a huge eye opener for me.
#6. Comparison is the death of gratitude.
Comparing your circumstances with someone who appears to have it better, leads to looking down on yourself and all that you have. I realized that the more I remain grateful for what I have, instead of always wishing it was better; I began to realize all the blessings I have overlooked and just how truly blessed I am.
#7. To be a great leader you need to first be a humble follower.
This was a tough one and it comes with a very long story. A lot of the times when you’re young, you believe you know a lot, but wisdom is learning the art of learning from those who have gone before you.
#8. It’s ok not to be ok.
It has become harder and harder to simply say, no, I’m not ok. We hide our emotions, afraid to be vulnerable. It’s almost like a taboo to be sad or depressed or experience anxiety and yet we all go through it! The most beautiful way to deal with pain is to acknowledge it, feel it, then and only then can you truly let it go. There is nothing wrong with feeling sad, but there is definitely something wrong with pretending it’s not there.
#9. There is nothing wrong with asking for help.
This is closely linked to #8 and I’ll admit I struggle to ask for help, but I’m willing to challenge myself every day to acknowledge when I need it. Because in the long run you get more done together than when you’re alone.
#10. You won’t always get it right, especially the first time.
I’m not sure I can call myself a perfectionist but I used to be the type of person who if I can’t get it right I’d rather not do it. This is such a ridiculous way of living, I mean who thinks like this! You will fail, and I mean a lot, this is something everyone goes through. It’s normal, and I think it’s necessary. So if you’re going to fail, fail fast, because failure teaches us some of the most invaluable lessons in life.
I feel like I cannot exhaust all the incredible lessons I learnt last year but I’ll leave it here for now. I would love to thank my family and especially my parents for showing me how precious family is. My friends for crying, laughing and praying for me, I couldn’t have done it without you. To my wonderful readers for taking the time to drop by. To Lilly Singh and Liza Koshy for being my biggest role models and making me truly want to reach my goals. And finally to God for making it all possible.
Happy New Year!